Chris Ramsey’s wife Rosie has branded her 2018 miscarriage the ‘worst thing that’s ever happened in her life’.
The author and podcaster, 33, explained how she had already thought up her unborn child’s ‘whole life’ when she discovered she had lost the baby without realising at seven or eight weeks pregnant during a routine 12-week scan.
Speaking on the latest episode of Vicky Pattison’s new podcast, The Secret To, Rosie told how she was determined to speak openly about her heartbreak so she could help other women in the same situation.
She said: ‘I had a miscarriage. I found out at the 12-week scan I’d actually lost the baby, it’s called a blighted ovum which is a missed miscarriage.
Truth: Chris Ramsey’s wife Rosie has discussed the details of her 2018 miscarriage – admitting the tragedy is the ‘worst thing that’s ever happened in her life’
‘The baby passed away at about seven or eight weeks but I still had the pregnancy sack inside so my body still thought I was pregnant but there was no baby there.
‘Honestly, I don’t want to sound dramatic but one of the worst things that’s ever happened in my life. You hear about women when you get to a certain age.’
A blighted ovum is a condition in which a fertilised egg implants in the uterine wall but the embryo fails to develop, usually due to chromosomal abnormalities.
Rosie has been married to comedian Chris, 33, since July 2014 and they share a son Robin, four.
Speaking about how she’d made plans for her unborn second child before the miscarriage in August 2018, she explained: ‘When I was in my twenties, my friends and family weren’t really trying for babies.
‘But when you’re in your thirties when you get that little bit older, you hear about miscarriages all the time. And before I’d had mine I used to hear about them and I’d think, oh that’s really horrible.
Important: In August 2018, Chris announced that Rosie has suffered a miscarriage at 12 weeks pregnant and admitted the ‘cruellest thing’ about the loss was that Rosie still had a baby bump, after her body failed to realise she had suffered a Blighted Ovum
‘But then you’d crack on and you wouldn’t think about it again. But honestly, when it happens to you it’s really awful.
‘As soon as you find out you’re pregnant you think up this whole baby’s life, it’s happening to you.
‘And even a miscarriage at four weeks can just be devastating, because it’s a long time. Even a week is a long time for your thoughts to run away with you and think up this baby’s life.’
Rosie revealed her fans and followers noticed her absence when she was mourning, as she said: ‘So it’s just hard and I was really active on social media at the time and I wasn’t on for a week and everyone was like, “Are you ok?”
‘You know when you haven’t been on and you get the messages like, “Are you alright?”
Sweet: On the podcast, Vicky said: ‘Rosie, I think one of the things I love so much about you, and I don’t want to finish the podcast without talking about it’
‘And me and Chris chatted about it and I was like, “I think I’m just going to tell people because I’m like that anyway”. I’m very heart on my sleeve.
‘I don’t really have many secrets as such, I’m very like this has happened, but I just thought I’m going to tell people and it’s nothing to be ashamed of, it’s happened to one in four women.
‘And the response we got was massive and loads of people were telling me about their experiences and it really helped. Selfishly for me it was a bit like therapy.
‘Hearing about all these other people who had gone through it and then hearing people who were like, I’ve got another child after mine. So it was quite positive and really helped us personally’.
Rosie previously admitted the ‘cruellest thing’ about the loss was that Rosie still had a baby bump, after her body failed to realise she had suffered a Blighted Ovum.
Focused: When making the announcement, Chris added that his young son Robin has been a welcome distraction from his grief, but said he is still ‘getting there’
After the tragedy, Rosie also shared an image of her hand in hospital and added a caption reading: ‘I was admitted into hospital a few days later to start the procedure. It was awful. Cramping, vomiting, fainting, fever, really just not nice…
‘After 5 rounds of tablets over a course of 20 or so hours the doctors told me it hadn’t worked as effectively as they’d hoped. I was then taken to surgery to have everything removed. It is now finally all over.’
‘I feel emotionally and physically exhausted. I have so much sympathy for other couples who have/are going through this as I never knew it entailed so much heartache.’
During the podcast, Vicky asked about Rosie’s relationship with Chris, to which she joked about wanting to ‘rip his face off’ after 13 weeks of lockdown.
United: The couple have been married since 2014
Her love: When Vicky asked about her relationship with Chris, Rosie said: ‘Oh gosh, do you know what? Pre-lockdown I’d have told you it’s absolutely wonderful, love him so much! Thirteen weeks in I wanna rip his face off if I’m honest! Haha!’
Rosie said: ‘Oh gosh, do you know what? Pre-lockdown I’d have told you it’s absolutely wonderful, love him so much! 13 weeks in I wanna rip his face off if I’m honest! Haha!
‘It still has its nice bits, he’s a little lamb, he’s no bother. He’s dead canny and because people just know the Chris on stage and you know him personally, but he’s got his little hang-ups and anxiety, all that kind of stuff…
‘Which I think just makes him better at what he does. Because if he didn’t have them things I don’t think he’d be as good at his job. He’s just dead nice!
‘I can actually sit back and be like, I have a nice marriage. I’m really chuffed, we’ve been together now coming up to our six-year wedding anniversary this year.’
For help and support please call the Miscarriage Association on 01924 200 799.
Vicky Pattison: The Secret To is available to listen on Acast and all major podcast platforms. New episodes are released every Thursday